A Celebration of Kaj Tesink
On Wednesday, October 25th 2006, Kaj Tesink of SAIC/Telcordia died following a long and hard-fought battle against pancreatic cancer.
The Internet and international communities lost a valued and energetic contributor to telecommunications and Internet standards. I lost as dear a friend as I could ever hope to have.
To the Internet community, Kaj leaves a legacy of enthusiastic and *constructive* participation. He also leaves his mark in 15 RFCs. Kaj published numerous articles in telecom and Internet journals and trade publications, and co-authored, with colleague Bob Klessig, a fine book on a pre-ATM broadband access technology, SMDS.
To his friends, Kaj leaves a wealth of happy and bittersweet memories. Kaj was more soft-spoken than outspoken, but rarely one to concede an argument without thoughtful deliberation. Kaj was as analytical a personality style as you'd ever expect to meet. He was also kind, thoughtful, and generous, never realizing he was "paying it forward". When Kaj was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer over a year ago, Friends of Kaj appeared seemingly out of nowhere to lend support, comfort and to help Kaj and his wife Elysia use the time he had to their maximum enjoyment.
Kaj loved board games, especially backgammon and cribbage; playing the latter, he was uncharacteristically competitive. Kaj would tell you he beat me in these games more often than not. I'd argue otherwise. The truth is lies in the middle. Nibbling on Dutch licorice was mandatory for these activities. Although I have not enjoyed that treat for many years, I know I will always think of my friend whenever the scent of licorice is present.
Born with Marfan's syndrome, Kaj never enjoyed the luxury of an entirely healthy life, yet he enjoyed biking, hiking, and other outdoor activities. A native of Holland, he led a lifestyle most Americans would consider traditionally European. He immersed himself in books more than television. He read newspapers, listened to BBC, and was better informed of international politics than most Americans are of their home town news.
Kaj is survived by his younger brother Winifred and his wife and soul mate, Elysia. I had the good fortune of serving as Kaj's best man when he and Elysia married. I recall I wished them a long and happy life together and ended the toast with "cient anni", a traditional Italian blessing that wishes the couple "100 years" of happiness together. I take comfort that part of my blessing came true. While their time together was too short, it was richly lived. Kaj was never happier than when he was with Elysia, and the feeling was mutual. Elysia was as resolute, resourceful, and completely committed a partner as any of us should hope to have when crisis and tragedy strike. Sadly, we live in a time when barely half of all married couples are willing to try to resolve the most trivial matters. Elysia serves as a role model of everything we promise when we say "in sickness and in health".
Elysia asked that donations be made in Kaj's name to the Nature Conservancy (the international branch). If you are so inclined, visit http://www.nature.org and make a donation in his name.
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by Dave Piscitello